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by Bethany Webster
Because the relationship with our mothers is primary and foundational, unresolved pain related to her can have a profound effect on several areas of our lives, including our core sense of who we are. Our mothers were imperfect human beings with flaws who inevitably left us with some degree of wounding. The level of wounding depends on many factors including how severely our mother was wounded herself.
Due to how we develop, the only way a child can interpret moments of maternal abandonment or rejection is to form the belief: “There’s something wrong with me.” If we do not heal the Mother Wound we risk living our lives indefinitely with this belief operating at our core, affecting everything that we do.
The belief at the core of the Mother Wound is “There’s something wrong with me.” This unconscious belief can limit you in so many ways:
Blocks your ability to have true intimacy.
Causes you to live under the painful mask of the false self: arranging your life around not rocking the boat, staying small in order to be non-threatening to others, needing external approval to feel OK
Living frozen with fear of failure while still deeply longing to live as your authentic self and bring your gifts to the world.
Cause you to unconsciously fear that making more money, being more visible, powerful and successful will cause rejection from or conflict with your mother. (To the un-healed child within, this is just too scary.)
Will hold you back from new opportunities and creating your dreams due to guilt or a sense that you don’t deserve it.
Overriding guilt that you don’t deserve to be happy, successful and fulfilled if your mother is unhappy, lonely or unwell.
When this belief is released, every area of your life is transformed because on a deep level you know that you are good, valuable, safe, and that life is inherently trustworthy. It's difficult to put into words just how profound a shift this is. It happens not all at once, but in incremental stages. Slowly and steadily, with each level of grief, of insight and transformation, more and more of your life force is returned to you and available for what calls to you from your soul. Life takes on a new dimension. Because you can see your purity, goodness and innocence, your sight becomes liberated at a deep level, allowing you to perceive truth and goodness in ways that were previously impossible.
At the deepest level, the Mother Wound is a wound with Life itself.
The Mother Wound serves as a veil between you and life. In the earliest days of our lives, our experience of our mothers was synonymous with life itself. To an infant, mother is food, mother is air, mother is world, mother is self. Our very experience of ourselves and of the world was filtered through the body and psyche of this person that was our mother. As you heal the Mother Wound, the veil between you and life slowly dissolves. This allows you to feel your very core as goodness; to know in your bones that you belong, to feel your unity with life, with all beings. Ultimately, it allows you to feel an unshakeable love in your heart that becomes a stable background of your life.
No matter how much other personal growth or spiritual work you do, none of it will be long-lasting or truly effective until you address the Mother Wound.
Until you get to the root of the causes of your inner suffering, which are the foundational patterns that were put in place in the earliest days in your life and mourn the situations that caused you to internalize them, the personal growth work you do can only go so deep, at a superficial level at best. As a "spiritual bypass-er" in my early twenties, I spent many years avoiding the Mother Wound because it just seemed too big, too painful and too overwhelming. But over time it became clear that the surface issues in my life all pointed back to a common core, which was the pain related to my mother and the beliefs about myself that originated from that relationship. All signs pointed there to that existential, primordial wound. Surprisingly, I came to realize that everything I was looking for through other things was found there, in the last place I wanted to look. The Mother Wound was not the dark abyss I thought it would be. Eventually, the darkness gave way to light, to a realization that no other experience could give me. It is now a fountain of wisdom that nourishes my soul and propels my evolution. This is possible for all of us.
All pain is an opportunity to enter into the heart of life and discover the truth of your divine nature. The Mother Wound is a particularly potent access point to the deeper truth that will liberate you to live as an awakened being.
It is your birthright to know your oneness with all life and the goodness at your core.
Healing the Mother Wound opens up the potential for this to be your experiential reality, not just an abstract concept or idea.
Does this article resonate with you? I invite you to explore my offerings on healing the Mother Wound: Private Coaching Online Course Live Workshops
(Art credits: All images in this post are by Georgia O'Keefe)
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