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by Bethany Webster
The word patriarchy is getting flung around a lot lately. Do you ever feel confused about what this term is actually referring to? In this article, I'm going to attempt to simplify the definition so it's clearer to you...
Dictionary definition of patriarchal society:
A patriarchal social system can be defined as a system of society or government in which men hold the power and women are largely excluded from it.
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There's a common misperception that patriarchy is just "man-hating" or "man-blaming." However, patriarchy negatively affects both men and women. Men suffer in a patriarchy because they are not permitted to express their true emotions and deemed weak if they deviate from the standard tough expressions of masculinity. (For example, if a man is sexually assaulted, it's considered "less manly" for him to talk about it and ask for support.) However, men are less likely to admit they suffer from patriarchy because they also receive a lot of privilege from it as well. Patriarchy grants men priority and permits their domination over women. Thus, women are more aware of its damaging impact as they suffer from it the most and benefit the least. Patriarchy is particularly damaging to black, brown and indigenous women around the world.
The principles of a patriarchal society include:
Women internalize negative beliefs about themselves through the constant reinforcement of these patriarchal principles through the wider culture and locally, through their families. While women suffer in patriarchy due to being labeled the weaker, inferior sex, patriarchy may be enforced by both men and women. These beliefs get normalized and passed down through the generations of women; often from mothers trying to protect their daughters from harm by helping them to fit in, to stay safe, to appear attractive, etc. Mothers pass on messages to their daughters like "Don't rock the boat. Put the needs of others before your own. Don't be too loud or big. Always be pleasing."
There's an old, underlying belief that compliance with patriarchal principles will keep women safe, but the opposite is true. Whether we comply or not, we end up harmed.
Consider the latest statistics from the United Nations about the treatment of women in our patriarchal world:
Here's where the Mother Wound comes in…
The Mother Wound is how patriarchy gets internalized and passed down through the generations of women. More specifically, the toxic atmosphere of patriarchy negatively influences a woman’s relationship with herself as a woman and thereby impacts her attachment bond with her child to various degrees. The pain gets passed down until someone in the lineage breaks the cycle by processing the pain, learning tools, and getting support in dismantling these falsehoods. As we do this healing work, more human potential can become realized on a massive scale.
The Mother Wound is a social condition rooted in patriarchy, that we all suffer from on the personal, cultural, spiritual and planetary levels. It's urgent we address it now.
How patriarchy manifests as the Mother Wound in women:
When we heal the Mother Wound, we're addressing the single source of all these manifestations that keep us stuck, unfulfilled and exhausted--we're healing from patriarchy.
Ultimately, it's not about our mothers in the end since our mothers have suffered from the Mother Wound as well. Healing the Mother Wound comes down to breaking the cycle of inter-generational pain of women living in a patriarchy, liberating ourselves as women, and clearing the path for women of the future. As we do, all of humanity benefits, evolves and moves forward.
So, back to you...
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